When we were younger I am more than positive that most of us were asked “what do you want to be when you grow up?” I cannot speak for all of us but I felt like there were not many careers to choose from. It was like if you did not have some crazy athletic talent or you were not born a singer or an actor you either had to be a teacher, doctor, nurse or go enlist in the army. Personally the corporate world was presented as the Holy Grail or mecca for all careers. I always dreamed of being a corporate woman handling big business with the world at my hands. Now that I have made it into the corporate world I am constantly asking myself why am I here? I feel like my passion and purpose is buried underneath all of this fake Continue reading A Creative Girl Stuck In A Corporate World
A blossoming relationship is a beautiful thing but if I could give one piece of advice to women in relationships it would be, DO NOT FORGET ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS!!!
When you are in love you just want to be around your man and bask in his presence and that is okay but nothing irks me more than a woman who neglects other areas in her life. Love is not easy to find and finding a good man is even harder but TRUE FRIENDS are rare to come by. What I find even more annoying about women like this is when her man and her are having issues the first person she wants to call is her friend. When her man and she have reached the end of their relationship she is going to call you to sit around the house to drink wine and listen to slow jams while she cries. Now I do not know about you but I am not with this type of shit. If you did not think enough of me to call and see if I was still breathing or to even wonder if I a needed a shoulder to cry on then I do not see a benefit of having you in my life. Of course you want to be there because you are a good friend but I tend to hesitate when I feel that those actions have not been reciprocated. I know sometimes people do things that can hurt people that they are unaware of but some things are true character flaws that I just do not dig. I take friendship very seriously and I know relationships are not about give and take but do not expect me to be there on your terms. This comes off very selfish and disloyal to me.
The last thing I am going to say is do not take your friends for granted. Men may come and go but true friends are there to stay. Treat people how you want to be treated and show the type of love that you would like to receive.
The Single B*tch
I am all about female empowerment and also leading dumb bitches to the light but it comes to a point where you cannot save them all. We all know someone who makes really bad decisions in their love lives and they complain but do nothing about it. Now I know you are thinking “well we all do” which is true but some women make bad choices with trashy ass men who live trashy ass lives and they keep repeating the cycle.
As a friend or just a woman who can relate you always want to lend a helping hand or ear to another woman who is going through some bad issues in their love life (or life period). In life I have learned that it is so important to be honest with yourself so that you can be honest with others. I feel like there is no way I can be a true friend to someone else if I cannot truly be honest and sincere about the advice that I want to give. I have been through some crazy situations and I can honestly admit that I put myself in about half of those situations. I think that some women have not come to a point in life where they can realize, accept and try to change a certain behavior. There is no fucking way that you should be making the same mistakes later in life that you made earlier in life. I just cannot seem to wrap my head around or understand why women keep putting themselves in the same dysfunctional ass situation. Some of these women will see that a relationship or situation is not beneficial to them but yet they keep allowing themselves to stay. Again, I do stupid shit allllll of the time (well not that damn often) but I feel when you know the consequences and you are comfortable with what you are doing then you are ahead of the game.
All I am saying is that if you know someone who is doing dumb shit with dumb ass men then try to help by giving good ass sincere advice. After a couple of conversations with her and you see that nothing is changing then save your breath, time and energy. Unfortunately some people do not know self-love or their worth and that is something that takes time. Try to be there for her as much as you can but you have to realize that you can’t save them all.
The Single B*tch