Too Damn Comfortable

As a single girl I think it is important to be comfortable with who you are and your relationship status. You shouldn’t feel sad about being single or feel rushed to find a significant other, you should just take this time to get to know yourself and focus on your wants and needs. Although I enjoy being single, I think I have gotten too damn comfortable. Continue reading Too Damn Comfortable

Men, Who Hurt You?

Disclaimer: This post is not generalizing all men. Just the men who display characteristics of over-sensitivity and sassiness.

I am just trying to figure out who hurt some of these men. I am a true believer in being able to display emotions and being able to communicate about thoughts and feelings. What I am not understanding is why some men have become so disrespectful towards women. I think that I have come to the conclusion that some men are the new “bitches”.

For one second please do not think that I am male bashing or saying that men cannot express their feelings. In fact, I love a man who is able to express how he feels and is not afraid of how he will be perceived. Too many times I have scrolled down my social media timelines and have seen such hateful things being expressed towards women. What shocks me even more are the women who comment but are afraid to speak their minds. Instead they agree which makes some men feel that this behavior is okay. I am starting to feel that men tear us down more than other women do. Like some men are straight catty lol. Not only am I tired of men disrespecting us, I am also tired of these attention seeking ass men. Since when have some men become such thirst buckets? I hate to see men post things just for attention or likes. I think it is such a coincidence how men do the same things that they bash us for. We get called bitter, hateful and told that we can’t get a man because of our attitudes but some men act in that same manner. I am also tired of men who do not accept their responsibilities as fathers, men who intentionally hurt women, men who disrespect their mothers and men who no longer take pride in being providers and protecting their families.

Now I can’t allow myself to talk this much shit about men without trying to offer some type of solution. I personally feel as though some of us women need to take the blame for how some of these men act. We hardly hold men accountable for their actions anymore. Some mothers are now raising their son’s to feel that it is okay to not be protectors and to not want to provide by pacifying them entirely too much. Girlfriends, baby mamas, wives and side pieces give men too many chances. We make shit too easy and we wonder why some men do not want to commit.  It’s time for us to be the backbone for our men again. Let’s strengthen, encourage and support them. Let’s also put our foot down, give them something to admire and call them out on their shit when it needs to be called out. I am tired of living in a world where I feel like women and men are at odds. I want more love and less hate. Hell, I can’t make a baby by myself. I need them…

Yours Truly

The Single B*tch

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Sixth Sense

One thing that I have enjoyed about being single is the fact that I really get to know myself. I have the opportunity to make sense of my thoughts, how I act and it even taught me how to understand others. I have developed many characteristics but one that I am most proud of is my ability to sniff out the bullshit.

When you are dating you come across many different personalities that have different ways of approaching you. When it comes to finding a man with some potential, I have had more failures than successes. See me, I am no dumb bitch so I try my best to learn from experiences than dwell on them. You begin to notice certain patterns, warning signs and red flags before things start to happen. When you really become a certified single bitch like myself you can even tell what a man’s intent is. I can even tell if he is used to a woman of a certain caliber. I do not like to gas myself up but I know my worth and my clout and some men probably can’t even handle what I have to offer. Once the signs begin to show you have to then decide if it is worth waiting to see if things will work or if you want to bounce before you get your feelings hurt. You are in control of your own fate. Continue reading Sixth Sense

Numb As F*ck

“When the darkness gets easier, you know you’re sinking deeper, becoming dead yourself.”-Lucy Christopher

I have heard about girls becoming jaded because of past failed relationships and getting hurt but I never thought that I was one of THOSE girls. Although I have been single for what seems like ages, I am still a hopeless romantic at heart in spite of what I have been through. I have never been anti-love and I have always assumed that it just wasn’t my time to have a relationship. For so long I thought that maybe I am just too comfortable with being single. But after a while I realized that I am not moved too much from not finding what I was looking for and then it dawned on me that maybe I am one of THOSE girls. Continue reading Numb As F*ck

Birthday Sex…A Tradition

That’s right yall, it’s SB’s birthday! So happy birthday to me. It’s the last year of my twenties so I must go out with a bang! When it comes to birthdays there are plenty of traditions. We sing happy birthday, we eat cake and ice cream and we receive presents. All of those things are nice but ain’t nothing better than some good ole birthday sex.

I’m not sure how or why birthday sex became a tradition but even before Jeremih came out with his hit song everyone was trying to get some nookie. It’s like your birthday isn’t even right unless you get laid. What if you don’t even have some reliable or familiar peen to get on the annual day of your birth? Like how disappointing is that? And oh goodness don’t let your period be on, that’s just a sick joke from the man upstairs himself. I even find myself trying to find and make a good connection with a good gentleman months before my birthday just so I know I will have someone to drunk text after I celebrate. I guess since sex is an enjoyable part of life we equate it to having a good time and I’m all for a good time.

So to all of my people celebrating a birthday I hope you get the pleasure you deserve. Always wrap it up and don’t end up pregnant. This year you will be taking shots of liquor and the next it will be a shot of an epidural and you don’t want that unless you’re ready!

Love,

The Single B*tch

Instagram Is The New Dating App

I don’t know about you all but I think dating applications and websites are dead. I feel that there is no need for dating websites anymore when you have many social media apps out here. Why pay for a membership on a dating site when you can slide into the DMs (direct messages) and see what is popping? Continue reading Instagram Is The New Dating App