Does Sex Change Things?

Sex will always be a topic that is hot and some may even be shy to talk about it. I think one question that most women want to know the answer to is “will he look at me different if I give him some?” Does when you decide to give it up determine your fate or destiny of a relationship? I would like to think not.

The connection and attraction that you have with every guy you meet is different. Some people look at me crazy when I say that I have been physically attracted to someone but not sexually. Every guy that I may be interested in does not make my cookie jar easy to open. I have met a guy that I had good conversation with and I thought he was attractive but he did not get my juices flowing. I have also met a guy that I knew was not relationship worthy but he made me want to ride him like a bike until the sun goes down. To me the most difficult attraction is when I meet a guy who I am attracted to mentally, physically and sexually. The reason why is because I know that his chances of getting me into bed is very easy but then I start to think if he will he take me serious enough to commit to me. I would like to think that since we are all adults when we have sex does not matter. Some people say wait at least three months. To a person like me this is not possible, mainly because sex matters a lot to me and what if you get him into bed and it sucks? No pun intended. Then again, I can see why it may be best to wait. If the sex is mind-blowing, it can give you mixed and false emotions. I am in that situation now.

I met a guy one Saturday and when I first saw him I knew I wanted him. I had to have him and I knew that I was going to give him some ass the moment I laid eyes on him. I thought that maybe we would just have a “FWB” relationship but when we actually hung out I realized that I did not want to settle for just that. Of course that epiphany came AFTER he fucked me like I have never been fucked before. In fact he has now taken “the best I ever had” spot. Now I do not want to even bring up the “what are you looking for?” conversation. Should the fact that we have already been intimate dictate what direction our relationship or lack thereof will take? Should I even approach him on the matter?

In all reality maybe I should have waited


Yours Truly,

The Single B*tch

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