Independent Woman Syndrome

Hi my name is The Single B*tch, first name The Single last name B*tch, and I too suffer from the Independent Woman Syndrome.

If you just take a look around us you can see that the world is constantly changing and evolving. Some changes are good and some may not be but I guess it all depends on who you ask. It seems that people do not adjust well to change especially when it deviates from the norm or what some consider traditional. What seems to be the norm now are women migrating to roles that were once held by men. Women are no longer barefoot, pregnant and in the kitchen. Women are now business owners, entrepreneurs, CEOs, the family breadwinners and homeowners. I personally feel that some women are used to doing everything on their own that if a man enters their life they would not know how to let a man be a man. I think some women are so independent to the point where it handicaps them when it comes to love and relationships if you are not willing to compromise. I have heard older women say that a man does not want a woman who they feel they cannot provide for. I disagree…I think that only applies to insecure and weak men.

I have my own home, car, job, money, benefits and I withhold a degree. I also have a child that I help provide for and I purchase my own clothes, shoes and pay my own bills. Since I have become a mother I find myself becoming a bit more controlling, demanding, aggressive and no-nonsense because I feel that I have to be. These characteristics seem to spill over to my romantic relationships as well. I had a guy tell me that some “men” rather have a woman that does not have as much as them because at any point and time she can leave and have any other man that she wants. I thought this was absurd. At times I think I am “too much” for some men but I feel that I do not attract the men that are on the same level as me. But at the same time I have said myself that I cannot picture myself being with a man who makes significantly more than me. I am not sure that I would be comfortable knowing that based on what we bring home it puts us in two different social classes. It is not because I am insecure but because I need to feel that I could stand alone and maintain the same lifestyle if that man would ever leave me. I guess this is where I make a mistake of letting my independent woman syndrome cock block. Maybe it is just me but when I look around I see a lot of women who have their own but seem to be single or are with men who do not have as much. Sometimes I wonder if our independent behavior handicaps the men we are with by making them comfortable with taking a backseat?

So, do you think it is possible to have an actual “power couple”? Do you think that in order for a power couple to exist that the man has to have more wealth than the woman? Do you think that it is possible to have a healthy relationship where the woman is the breadwinner? Do you think that a man of any stature or salary can accept a woman of power?

Yours Truly,

The Single B*tch

4 thoughts on “Independent Woman Syndrome”

  1. “I have heard older women say that a man does not want a woman who they feel they cannot provide for. I disagree…I think that only applies to insecure and weak men.

    Yes, this! I agree 100% and I ain´t a gale.

    “Do you think that in order for a power couple to exist that the man has to have more wealth than the woman? Do you think that it is possible to have a healthy relationship where the woman is the breadwinner? Do you think that a man of any stature or salary can accept a woman of power?”

    Yes, yes I do. I understand that gales may not fancy a dude who is lazy, I acknowledge that work ethic is an important value but man should working and his wife/girlfriend shouldn´t? Hell no!

    What is that supposed to do, make me feel like a man? That would only be a feeling, a dellusion.
    I tell you viewers who would try try to shame me, that would have me believe that is what being a man is all about, Greeks fighting in Syria, Dutch and German bikers who fight on the Iraqi side against the Islamists are real men, you aren´t, if being a work mule and walking ATM is all you got…

    Also, if you do not know that already, the economies of western europe and North america will continue their current trend.
    There are going to be even less jobs and even less well-paid and full-time ones. Inflation will rise even further, 7 years economic cycle.

    http://theeconomiccollapseblog.com/archives/the-seven-year-cycle-of-economic-crashes-that-everyone-is-talking-about

    Unemployement will be harder for younger guys and those above 50 as well, the situation in Greece is just the beginning.

    Good luck to those older women who wishes to marry up, find a “man” who will want to “provide” for them, find their neediness to be endearing.

  2. Most of these type of strong independent women are so very horrible to begin with since they really think that they’re the greatest thing on this planet which their Not at all. Most of them don’t even have respect for us men anymore since they’re so very selfish and greedy all the time since it is all about them unfortunately. And they have such a rotten Personality and no manors at all as well since they will even take advantage of men that have money just to get what they want from them which makes these type of women very Pathetic altogether. Quite a change in the women of today which Most of the women in the old days really did put these women today to shame as well.

    1. I understand what you’re saying but from my experience i feel like men arent men anymore. I cant’t speak for all men but some of the ones that i encounter are weak so you have no choice but to play the dominant role. Men expect so much from women but yet they in return cant reciprocate what they ask for. Okay, you want me to cook, clean and sex you real good but you dont wash my car, help provide and protect or be handy around the house. Men also create kids and leave a woman to play both roles and thats not ok. I guess what i am trying to say is that if some men do what they are supposed to do then im sure that woman can then learn how to have more of a synergy with him

  3. The real problem is that Most of these strong independent women are very high maintenance, independent, selfish, greedy, spoiled, picky, narcissists, and very power money hungry all the time as well. Unfortunately i have met these type of women since many of them have the worst attitude problem as well which they really Don’t have respect for us men like i mentioned this in my last comment which really does make it very difficult for many of us good men really looking for a good woman to meet that isn’t like this at all since many of us men really do know how to treat a good woman with a lot of love and respect if we were really given that chance which is very impossible these days. I had a woman Curse at me at one time for no reason at all and all i said to her was good morning to start a conversation going since i was very attracted to her which it didn’t go to well for me at all. I know a couple of friends that also had this happened to them as well which as i can see how very Pathetic that many women unfortunately have become over the years which is the real problem here. There are many of us good innocent men out there by the way and it is just a real shame for us that we have to suffer for the bad apples that are out there now. Now with all these reality shows that they now have on TV which has really made it worse as well as the media which really makes us men look bad even though many of us aren’t at all. A very bad time looking for real true love these days which years ago it was quite a different story since the good old days were certainly very different which made it very easy for our family members that were very blessed to be born back then. They just had a couple that just celebrated their 81st year together which it was really meant to be for them.

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