#SINGLELIVESMATTER

Listen damnit, I am tired of single people getting looked at like we have leprosy or some shit. It is like if you are over a certain age and you are not in a relationship then some people seem to talk to or about you in such a condescending manner. Everyone does not get into a relationship for the right reasons and there is nothing wrong with being single. For goodness sake single lives matter too.

I made my blog to make single women (all women honestly) feel like they are not alone. Sometimes you feel that you may be the only one who goes through something but you would be surprised at the amount of people who have the same thoughts as you and go through the same things as you. I feel that we focus on having a healthy relationship with a significant other that we forget that it starts with ourselves. If you are not right with yourself then you cannot expect to be right with anyone else. Your value does not increase or decrease based on your relationship status. A significant other is not there to complete you but only to compliment you. I am just sick and tired of people trying to dictate where you should be in your life based on social norms or tradition.

I am not saying that relationships are not important and that you shouldn’t be in one. What I am trying to say is that the most important relationship is with yourself. Anytime someone tells you what you should be doing in reference to a romantic relationship make sure you tell them that single lives matter too damnit.

 

With Love,

The Single B*tch

4 thoughts on “#SINGLELIVESMATTER”

  1. Preach Sister!

    Having a man does not validate you. Not everyone is meant to be married. Being Married does not equate to eternal bliss just look at the high divorce rate in the USA for proof. I made the decision Not to get married when I was young and for the most part I do not regret making that choice. Yes I’ve been through some rough times as a single woman especially when I was sick or in the hospital but God always sends somebody to help you and you must reach out for help. When I was young family (my aunts & cousins Not my parents) screamed at me to get married. I’ve heard that stupid Why are you single question for decades. Church. Co-workers. Even random guys on the street one in particular
    despite living in a homeless shelter with no job and no prospects after asking me for a dollar telling me as I walked away from him You Need a Man! Looking back I find this somewhat hilarious as this young man was in his 30s, I’m damn near 60 and what do I want with a little boy man?!! Yes it would be nice to have a companion but I never have settled nor am I desperate.

    Single Women might want to read a book called Having Our Say two sisters who decided not to marry and had very rich fulfilling lives. They both lived to be over 100. I personally attribute their long lives to Not having a husband who stresses you and denies you the right to be yourself. Given the time period in which they lived they had to go against society and tradition for their achievements. I can still remember when I was growing up in the 1960s/70s Single Women being called Old Maids and Spinsters like we outlived our usefulness or avoided our purpose in life ie husband and children. Once you read this book or watch the movie it will give you a new refreshing outlook on being a Single Woman.

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Having_Our_Say:_The_Delany_Sisters%27_First_100_Years

    Having Our Say: The Delany Sisters’ First 100 Years is a 1993 New York Times bestselling book of oral history written by Sarah “Sadie” L. Delany and A. Elizabeth “Bessie” Delany with Amy Hill Hearth. The sisters were the daughters of a former slave who became the first African-American elected Bishop in the Episcopal Church in the United States.[1] The sisters were civil rights pioneers, but their stories were largely unknown until Amy Hill Hearth, a reporter for The New York Times, interviewed them for a feature story in 1991, then expanded her story into book form

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