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If I Had My Way

Hmmmm about 6’3 -6’4, 240 pounds, skin like a chocolate bar, clean-cut, does not take as long as I do to get ready and musically eclectic. The type that can listen to Prince, The Isley Brothers, Paramore and Fall Out Boy but thoroughly enjoys classic Outkast records and knows EVERY song on T.I.’s Trap Muzik. If I had my way he would be sweet, understanding, intelligent, ambitious, lets me take the lead but knows his role as a man. Someone who adores his mother but does not act like a B*TCH. I want a  man who accepts that women are made of many layers and is worth more than what the eye can see. He needs to know that a REAL woman can adapt to any situation without losing herself but she is still a queen to be. I would like to think of myself as multifaceted so my future guy would have to be as well. He should be able to go from hanging out with his sneakers on to dress shoes in a company meeting.

I am starting to wonder if we women even get what we want. Could  majority of us be single because we think that we are going to find that perfect man who is in our heads? Or could we be single because we know what we want and refuse to settle for less? Honestly speaking some women are not sure of exactly what we want. We go into situations having expectations and we are not even being realistic. Oh and to my women who are spoken for but are not happy, do not let being comfortable and thinking nothing else better is not out there. Time is something that you can NEVER get back. We women are so use to doing what we have to do and want to act how society expects us to that we do not see what is on the other side of the rainbow. It is nothing wrong with wanting what you have always dreamed of but no man will ever be 100% perfect. Just because it looks all polished and well put together does not mean that it is…

-The Single B*tch

Releasing Your Inner Goddess

My friends and I were in New Orleans and we decided to get a tarot card reading. When we sat down we were told to pick nine cards. Two of my friends went ahead of me and it was finally my turn. The lady who did my reading (Dawn) told me many things but two things that she said stood out to me. The first thing that she told me was that I need to let go of the past in order to move forward. The second thing that she told me was that I have more strength than I realize. Dawn told me that everyone around me notices how strong I am except me. Normally I am even-tempered and I hate feeling weak or feeling like a situation consumes me  but I become extremely emotional when  I think of how things in my past made me feel. Call me simple, naïve or foolish but I felt like she hit the nail on the head. Maybe she is not the “truth” and what she told me was just confirmation. At the end of our reading she had each of us pull what is called the goddess card.  Almost everyday you hear men referred to as gods or kings but we women are barely called queens or goddesses. We have no one to remind us of not only our outer beauty but our inner beauty as well. So I happened to pull the goddess card of Maeve. Maeve is known to be very magical and withholds much power. Dawn told me ” sweetie you have more magic than you think.” That gave me chills because it was directly correlated to the fact that she said I have more strength than I realize.

Ladies on a daily you need to know that no matter what you are a goddess. We give so much of ourselves to others that we forget to give to ourselves. Always hold your head high and be secure in yourself. Do not let the mistakes or hurt  of the past dictate your future and how you think of yourself. Remember that you are beautiful and deserve the best. Whatever you have experienced that caused some pain is just preparation for what is to come so when you go through it you will come out better than you came in. One last thing, please remember that you have more magic than you think…

“Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need of my care,
‘Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me. ” -Maya Angelou


The Single B*tch