You met a guy and it did not work out. Maybe you were more interested in him than he was you or maybe he just was not interested at all. The situation could be just that, a situation and nothing serious at all. For some strange reason this man just has a hold on you that you can not shake. You date other people, you go out and seem happy but this guy will not stop popping up in your head.
At times he tells you things that you want to hear and others you do not hear from him at all. So you start to do all of the things that you know that he likes. You cook him dinner every week, buy him whatever he likes and turn into his own personal Jada Fire but no matter what you still can not win his heart. What I have learned is that you have to start taking things at face value. When you have your blinders on it is so hard to see that this guy just is not for you. Yes he may have all of things and characteristics that you want in a man but he is not the man for you. I am not sure if you try to make something out of nothing to prove everyone else wrong or to make you feel better about what you thought was a lost. It hurts now but as you grow you will see that there are other men out there who are just as wonderful if not better and he will want what the other guy did not…and that is Y-O-U!
-The Single B*tch
If God didn’t give a woman anything else he gave her intuition. Maybe it is just me but it is almost like you know it before it happens but you just need that one tad bit of proof. All it takes is that one gut feeling and we are already on edge. To sum it all up… We ain’t stupid ( well some of us aren’t). The most dumb thing you can do is ignore your initial feeling because 9 times out 10 it is right.
For some women in a relationship they notice the changes in their man and know something is up before the sh*t hits the fan. Well for me my intuition kicks in immediately when I meet a guy. Unfortunately I choose to ignore it at times. Personally I know how it feels to want something that you already know isn’t for you. For the first time in a long time I met a guy that I was extremely attracted to physically and sexually. When I met him, I knew something wasn’t right. It doesn’t mean that he is a bad person but what he had to offer at that time is not parallel to where I am in life. I had all of the signs in front of me such as his inconsistency, what I saw on his social media sites and what others told me. Maybe I am a little silly but I NEVER go by what others say. I like to go by the motto IF I DIDN’T SEE IT, IT DIDN’T HAPPEN! What is kind of crazy is that no matter what I am feeling or even seeing I know I am still going to check it out just to see what will happen. I really could care less what others think but see I have a big ego and I hate to prove myself wrong. As I am sitting here writing this I am wondering why a lot of women do this (don’t act like you don’t) and I think I somewhat have it figured out…
We women have a natural-born gift of intuition but sometimes I wonder if our gut feeling is being affected by what we hear or see. If we are looking for something we will find it EVERYTIME! Being a woman I have learned that through experience we learn how to recognize patterns. I am beginning to think that listening and letting your intuition guide you has a lot to do with your inner growth. So maybe I have not grown internally and emotionally as I think I have and again that is why I choose to be single at this time. We need to learn how to sometimes mute the selfish desires, especially when we know something is not for us, and comfort so we can find a way to seek the truth
-The Single B*tch
5 Simple Steps that lead to your inner guidance:
1) Take a moment out of your day to spend quiet time alone. No electronic devices allowed!
2) Now take pen to paper and begin emptying your head. Spontaneously write whatever comes to mind. You’re creating white space. Clearing the path to the door of inner receptivity.
3) Next, put down the pen and spend five minutes in silence.
4) Ask for assistance, answers, guidance — whatever you need.
5) Listen… Trust… Follow…
5 simple steps that lead to your inner guidance was quoted from http://www.huffingtonpost.com/susan-ann-darley/mindfulness-practice_b_4551609.html